“The truth will set you free, but first it will shatter everything you once believed.” [quote inspired by a Bible verse, John 8:32]
When you attempt to break toxic patterns—or even shine a light on them—you often become the scapegoat or the black sheep. But this isn’t necessarily a negative thing, unless you decide to wear victimhood as your identity.
Instead, it may mean you carry the emotional weight that others refuse to acknowledge. But that’s a burden you don’t have to keep holding.
You may be dismissed, guilt-tripped, questioned, or even painted as “crazy.” But these are tactics used to pressure you into conforming to dysfunction that’s been masked as comfort. You’re called to challenge it because you see through the lies and the deception others are too afraid to face.
1. Conditioning Keeps People Stuck
Many remain trapped in cycles that bury their deeper purpose and potential. They live in mental feedback loops that numb their evolution. In avoiding discomfort, they avoid growth—and then project that limitation onto others who dare to change.
They may not even know they’re doing it. But that’s how people get stuck, afraid to shine, afraid to leave the familiar behind.
2. Projection, Fear, and Control
When people feel threatened by someone else’s growth, they project. They may dim the light they see in others simply because they’ve lost connection to their own. This creates a generational stronghold—keeping entire families stuck in fear, control, manipulation, and emotional suppression.
Some turn to gossip. Others bury themselves in distractions to escape the truth that healing requires accountability. Without that, negative thought patterns become their reality—manifesting as pain, bitterness, or even illness.
3. Faith Over Fear
I’ve accepted that this has been a part of my journey—and honestly, my upbringing. But I see it now for what it is: control, fear, and suppression disguised as “protection.”
People create their own hells through beliefs and behaviors that invite chaos. But I refuse to live in that space. I choose faith. I choose truth. I choose growth.
4. The Pain of Being “The Youngest”
Being the youngest often comes with assumptions—that you’re still a child, that your wisdom isn’t valid. Control can hide behind “concern,” and manipulation behind “love.”
But age doesn’t equal growth. And I’ve come to realize that maturity is spiritual, not chronological. Despite being the youngest, I feel like the most grounded and spiritually mature person in my family—and that’s not pride, it’s clarity.
5. The Weight and the Calling
It’s not easy being the one who sees clearly. Sometimes it feels isolating. But I also realize I’m equipped for it. I’ve endured many battles, and each one has prepared me to lead—not from a place of superiority, but from a place of faith and service.
Lately, I’ve been more mindful about how I manage my energy and emotions. I’ve become more intentional with what I allow into my mind, body, and spirit. I see how easy it is to reach for distractions—especially in a world full of quick escapes—but I’ve chosen to face things head-on instead of numbing them. Not because I’m better, but because I know my path requires full clarity.
6. A Light in the Dark
I wish I could be the light for everyone in my bloodline. But the truth is, I can’t force anyone to heal. I can only live by example. And when people try to pull me back into patterns I’ve worked hard to break—through prayer, journaling, and deep spiritual work—I know it’s not my job to carry them. I release it to God.
7. I Choose Growth
I’ll be 35 this month. And instead of shrinking or settling, I’m choosing growth—even when it’s uncomfortable. Even when it feels lonely. I know I’m not just doing this for me, but for those who come after me. For others who feel lost, dismissed, or discouraged.
This is my calling. And I will honor it.
Final Word:
The truth is, I refuse to let anyone dim my light—especially those who can’t yet see their own. I can’t drag people into healing. But I can show them what’s possible. And I can follow God’s calling with courage, peace, and clarity.
This isn’t about blame. It’s about breaking cycles so we can all become who we were truly meant to be.✨